How To Hook Up in College - Guys

Are you having sex or not? 

Like most stages in life, having sex is pretty high on the to-do list for the majority of college students.  However, the tactics that some freshman guys and gals utilize trying to chase tail is terribly flawed. 

For myself, finding the perfect girl for me took a mere 48 hours after move-in, and we've been in love ever since.  

Other friends of mine were not so lucky, bringing their high school "game" to college and coming up short.  

I don't claim know everything about women, what guy does.  These are just a list of Do's and DO NOT's when it comes to seducing the ladies at college, as observed through the trial and error of men who have walked that path before.  

Let's start with the DO NOT's

1.  DO NOT brag about how many girls you used to get in high school.  

Telling people about the quantity of sex you may or may not have had only does one thing: Make you look like a douche.  

Girls don't like to think that they will be "just another notch in the ole' belt" or that the guy they are with is easy.  Man-whores are not attractive after a while.

Besides possibly being perceived as a diseased slut, sharing the number of sexual partners you have had with complete strangers can spark the wrong thought in a girl's mind:  He might be overcompensating for something.

She might think the overcompensation is due to a lack of experience with girls, or a smaller than average "appendage"  .  Either way, these are both things that you do not want your brand new love interest to think for a second.

2.  DO NOT try to force yourself onto girls.

This is not to say that you shouldn't be outgoing and flirty.  A mild aggressive demeanor is something that most girls find attractive, but many guys have turned the corner from "sexy and knows what he wants" to "creepy and still following me around the club".  

Many guys do not mean to transform into the "creepy kid," but not recognizing when you are becoming a little too overbearing can make you infamous with the females of the dorm.

3. If you do get some from a girl in the dorm, DO NOT ignore the girl in the future.

Contrary to popular believe, gossip does not end in high school, and your business will most likely be everyones business.  

That being said, you will be known as the guy who likes to "hit it and quit it".  If you're not trying to at least spend the next week or two getting to know her, you probably shouldn't be poking her with your manly parts.  

4.  DO NOT kiss and tell.

This one kinda ties in with the first one.  

Telling the entire floor that you've actually touched a vagina does not improve your life in any way.  This is college, and most guys have.  Telling your best friend is one thing, even a mutual high- five is okay.

Posting it as your Facebook status and having your dad "like" it is not okay.  

5.  DO NOT brag about how much you can drink or how much you party.

It's college, and most people drink and party.  Most girls are now looking for a classy guy.

And no one thinks you're a bad ass.

So what can a guy do to increase his chances of hitting a home run?

Here are a few tips for guys who don't want to strike out 

- Approved by a few sexy Alpha Phi sorority girls at University of North Carolina at Wilmington

List of DO's 

1.  DO care about the girl you are trying to get intimate with.

Don't pretend, many girls can sense when affection is not genuine, which is an automatic turn-off.  Girls will only be intimate with guys they like and they trust that their partners like them back.  Guys should not pursue a girl purely for sex.

2.  DO act confident.

Confidence is sexy.  If a guy has the balls to approach a girl, it says a lot about his overall character. The confidence makes the girl think:  "I bet he's confident in everything he does," and has the potential to give her a good vibe about his sexual prowess.

This means the guy makes the first move, especially on the first kiss.  If the time is right and the feelings are there, take a risk and go in for the kill!

Don't forget the advice of Will Smith: Only go 90% ! 

3.  DO keep yourself up physically 

Looks aren't everything, but they do count for something.  Muscles of a body builder aren't necessary to attract a female peer, but unless you're Biggie Smalls, the extra chub is not helping your cause.  Try not to smoke and take her out to a healthy meal as a date, or join her on a jog. 

Who knows, maybe she's going green and she'll invite you to join her in the shower to save water.

4.  DO be willing to wait

Getting to see a girl naked probably will not happen overnight.  American culture has taught her to hold out and resist, to make certain of your sincerity.  We have a saying down south: Put in work.  Be persistent yet not aggressive, and start friendships with everybody you meet.  

Hopefully you find your way to the right girl.  Remember to play the field and don't take anything to seriously,

And never forget: Don't be a fool and wrap your tool!